Today was a quite day until D came home from school...hes usually exhausted which in turn makes him crankier then hell so when it came to dinner time it was yet another yelling match from everyone. I made dinner, and told him it was ready he sat down ate two things and said he didnt want what i made he wanted something else. And well frankly im sick of making him his own "special" meal cuz he wont eat what is made. Time to break the habit. And well cuz i told him nicely that he had to eat what he had, he started crying and screaming and falling into things, etc. So i told him that if he was gonna act that way then he could either go to bed or eat his dinner. It kept on for about oh an hour or so roughly, after about 20 mins i got angry and yelled at him...guess what he did when i yelled.. (BTW i barely yell at my son, i only do it when he manages to tick me off to no end), he laughed in my face pretty much. I mean how are you suppose to keep your cool in that situation... I know how i deal with it....lol...i dont!!! I let Daddy do all that stuff.
Anyways, noticing now that since the babysitting thing is done i now have more time to sit and type on here about nothing...lol.
So theres my rant for the day, not much i know but meh i live a boring life...lol.
TTYL
Friday, September 23, 2011
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
what would you do???
ok so i am no longer babysitting anymore... there was a situation... which im still a lil ticked about. But anyways here goes...
When i first starting watching this lil boy the original agreement was till October cuz the mother was sure that he would get a spot then, but as time went on and after she had spoken to the person whos in charge of that stuff she then changed it to January and well the money was good so i agreed to it all. But then about a couple weeks ago her son started intentally beating my son with toys in the head and back etc. I then approched the mother about this situation and there was really nothing done nor no more talk about it...so i let it go. I figured that my son is 4 years old he can walk away from the situation if need be, thats fine. Then my son proceeded to tell me that he didnt want me to watch this lil boy anymore, i felt bad but shrugged it off. I knew it was affecting him seeing as it was always him, then came his sister and then literally about 2 months after she was born i started watching this other lil boy and he had just started school so there were alot of changes in his life which i knew were affecting him, but we needed the money so i just tried my hardest to give my time to everyone, which by the way was wearing me thin.
So anyways continuing on....
Then this lil boy then decided to want to consistently try and push my buttons by going after my daughter while she was in her chair or on the floor. I could not let her stay on the floor period since he would go straight for her and no matter how many times i say no or remove him from the situation or distract him with something else to do he would not listen, right back over to where she was. I let that go to i then decided i would just keep putting her in her chair, where she was safe. Which was slowing her down with development cuz she didnt have as much tummy time as she needed, in my eyes anyways. I thought long and hard about the decisions to be made. But yet again i didnt stop watching him seeing as i Knew the position as well that the parents of this child were in as well, not to mention the money for us was good as well.
So then three days back to back i had to go through the lil boy hitting my son with toys in the head, my son didnt fight back he did not do anything he got up and walked away and then cried later. I did not like it one bit. But then on Tuesday i had enough of it when i put my daughter in her chair and went in the kitchen long enough to take a bottle out of the fridge and put it in the warmer and then go back into the living room to find this lil boy on top of my 5 month old daughter tryin to shove a toy in her mouth i lost it completely.
So later that day when his mother called i told her that i could not watch her son anymore and that i would continue to watch him until she was able to find someone else to watch him and she didnt need to come get him immediatly i was just giving her the heads up and all. So she then proceeded to tell me that she was coming to get him now, she had to quit work cuz of this, and that she wouldnt be bringing him back... basically giving me a whole guilt trip. So once i was off the phone with her yes i did cry i felt bad i didnt want it to go down like that at all. I started to re think the whole situation again...
But then i was told by numerous people i did the right thing by looking after the well being of my own children first which im sure is what any mother or father would do being put in my situation as well... So
Again i ask
What would you have done??? The same thing??? Am i wrong???
Cuz now this person is no longer talking to me... i have basically lost a friendship over it... i seem to think that she is the one acting a lil childish... but thats just me... Imput would be great !!!
T
When i first starting watching this lil boy the original agreement was till October cuz the mother was sure that he would get a spot then, but as time went on and after she had spoken to the person whos in charge of that stuff she then changed it to January and well the money was good so i agreed to it all. But then about a couple weeks ago her son started intentally beating my son with toys in the head and back etc. I then approched the mother about this situation and there was really nothing done nor no more talk about it...so i let it go. I figured that my son is 4 years old he can walk away from the situation if need be, thats fine. Then my son proceeded to tell me that he didnt want me to watch this lil boy anymore, i felt bad but shrugged it off. I knew it was affecting him seeing as it was always him, then came his sister and then literally about 2 months after she was born i started watching this other lil boy and he had just started school so there were alot of changes in his life which i knew were affecting him, but we needed the money so i just tried my hardest to give my time to everyone, which by the way was wearing me thin.
So anyways continuing on....
Then this lil boy then decided to want to consistently try and push my buttons by going after my daughter while she was in her chair or on the floor. I could not let her stay on the floor period since he would go straight for her and no matter how many times i say no or remove him from the situation or distract him with something else to do he would not listen, right back over to where she was. I let that go to i then decided i would just keep putting her in her chair, where she was safe. Which was slowing her down with development cuz she didnt have as much tummy time as she needed, in my eyes anyways. I thought long and hard about the decisions to be made. But yet again i didnt stop watching him seeing as i Knew the position as well that the parents of this child were in as well, not to mention the money for us was good as well.
So then three days back to back i had to go through the lil boy hitting my son with toys in the head, my son didnt fight back he did not do anything he got up and walked away and then cried later. I did not like it one bit. But then on Tuesday i had enough of it when i put my daughter in her chair and went in the kitchen long enough to take a bottle out of the fridge and put it in the warmer and then go back into the living room to find this lil boy on top of my 5 month old daughter tryin to shove a toy in her mouth i lost it completely.
So later that day when his mother called i told her that i could not watch her son anymore and that i would continue to watch him until she was able to find someone else to watch him and she didnt need to come get him immediatly i was just giving her the heads up and all. So she then proceeded to tell me that she was coming to get him now, she had to quit work cuz of this, and that she wouldnt be bringing him back... basically giving me a whole guilt trip. So once i was off the phone with her yes i did cry i felt bad i didnt want it to go down like that at all. I started to re think the whole situation again...
But then i was told by numerous people i did the right thing by looking after the well being of my own children first which im sure is what any mother or father would do being put in my situation as well... So
Again i ask
What would you have done??? The same thing??? Am i wrong???
Cuz now this person is no longer talking to me... i have basically lost a friendship over it... i seem to think that she is the one acting a lil childish... but thats just me... Imput would be great !!!
T
